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Don’t Let Criticism Stop You From Reaching Your Dreams

September 28th, 2014


It’s been said that if you’re not receiving criticism, then you’re not really trying very hard. Criticism will come in different forms and from various directions. There are two ways to handle criticism: you can let it distract you or you deal with it and move on. Let’s take a look at how to deal with criticism in a positive way.

Take a deep breath and alter your perspective.

We know that’s it’s very easy to get defensive and to automatically feel like you’re being attacked when faced with criticism. If you adjust your outlook when receiving this negative feedback, it will be easier to hear what the person is actually saying.

Step Two: Take time to evaluate and judge the criticism.

If you’re in the middle of a project or job that requires your full attention, you will want to develop the ability to set the criticism and how you react to it aside until you’re able to think clearly about it and without much feeling. When you are able to give the criticism space in your thoughts, make an effort to divide your emotional reaction from your logical one. Often times, criticism does have validity. Certainly no one is perfect and even if you’re think you’re close, I’m sure there’s probably room for improvement.

Step Three: Be aware of your thoughts.

For the most part, we are great as emotional beings at letting our thoughts takeover. After you receive criticism, it’s very easy to become affected by negative emotions. We may feel angry with the person criticizing us and disappointed that our efforts weren’t received better. Our self-esteem can take a hit and we may even feel as if our goals and dreams are never going to be reached.

Being the emotional beings we are, we also have control over our thoughts. The main thing is to become conscious of them first, acknowledge the thoughts you’re having and change them. You can decide to put your attention on the positive. Decide that yes your dreams and goals are worth achieving and when you receive that criticism, don’t let it devastate your day. I wouldn’t even let it ruin the moment.

Lastly, take that criticism and place it where it belongs.

If there is some truth to it, find out what it is that needs improving. If there is some doubt about the validity of the criticism, then by all means, get a second or third opinion. Do this only if the criticism is important. If it is way off base, toss it in the garbage along with the rest of the trash and move on.

When you receive criticism, it means you’re taking some sort of action. You’re doing something bold, beneficial, and challenging. Good for you, that’s always a good thing!


A Tribute to my Godfather!!

September 3rd, 2014


The faraway home has called. The news is sad. Tears swell and stream. My Godfather has been called home.

Damn!!! I didn’t even get to say goodbye.

Yes, I know that death is a part of life, but for some reason you’re just never ready for it. The punches cannot be avoided. Especially when someone you love dies.

Happiness, sorrow, love and sadness go hand in hand. A time for everything under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8) birth and death, a celebration of life.

My Godfather, Harold Crawley, has transitioned to his glorious life.

Why does entering Heaven have to be so painful for us on this side?

He was such a great guy.

I remember him teaching me how to play tennis. If I had to do over again, I can honestly say, I would be a great Tennis Superstar today. If only…

Oh how I wish I had listened to my Godfather. All his great words telling me how great I could be.

His gentle spirit moves between family, friend, heart, soul, earth, heaven…

My Godfather, Harold Crawley, has transitioned, like a butterfly. “The concept that is a disaster to the caterpillar, is liberation to the butterfly. The caterpillar enters a dark time, then comes out on the other side transformed.”

That concept is easy to comprehend, yet death doesn’t make it so easy to translate.

My beloved Godfather Harold Crawley…he was such a Gentle Soul!!

Thank you for your words of Wisdom and Encouragement. I remember when I was going through my time of difficulty. You allowed me and my daughters to come and live with you and Lois. We were in your kitchen in Hyattsville, MD, and there, you said to me, “Don’t worry Baby, you’re going to come out smelling like a Rose.”

Thank you Harold. To this day, I still hold on to those words.

Until we meet again, may you rest peacefully, as you fought a good fight.

You were a great guy!!

You will remain forever in my heart!


A Joyful Heart Is Good Medicine

August 14th, 2014

You may not know that harboring negative feelings or being distraught emotionally makes us susceptible to poor health. Being angry, suppressing un-forgiveness, being depressed, sad, and even ignoring conflict causes stress in our bodies. Also, if you are in a continual negative state of mind and thought, your body is in a constant state of high stress, compromising and weakening your immune system. It is in this weakened state that makes it difficult for our bodies to fight off illnesses and disease.

Learning how to deal with our issues, practicing forgiveness, smiling more, combating negative thoughts, and avoiding drama, we can reduce the bad stress in our bodies. You will strengthen the body and enjoy life more.

Always pay attention to your body. You feel more energized when you’re happy and will usually possess a polite disposition. When you are feeling the opposite, you may feel less energized, weighed down by burdens, and may even experience aches and pain within. One thing for sure, the body never lies and although we can’t see the functioning of our bodies within, doesn’t mean something is not happening. If you a show negative outward appearance due to a mindset that is cradled by negative feelings; there will be a negative inner affect going on as well.

If you’re feeling stressed, make time for moderate exercise, it’s a great stress-buster and can improve your mood. Always spend time doing things you enjoy whether it be going to a movie, fishing with the kids, or having lunch with a good friend.

Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation can work wonders for your state of mind. Treat your self well and make time for healthy meals and be sure to get the proper amount of rest.

We do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and some effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you’ll receive.

Ultimately, pleasure and happiness are truly medicine to our bodies. However it is up to us to exercise healthy emotions and thoughts. When life throws you a curve ball, always try to respond in a healthy manner. I know we all experience the not so good feelings and think not so good things, that’s just a part of life. The goal is to not stay in that negative place of mind because it is what is in our hearts that will ultimately decide our well being as a whole.


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Steps To Effectively Manage Anxiety Attacks

June 24th, 2014

Have you every found yourself sweating with a fast heartbeat and shortness of breath? More than likely you weren’t having a heart attack. You may have been experiencing a anxiety attack. When someone has a problem with anxiety attacks, the first step should be learning how to manage it.

Anxiety is described as excessive reactions to fearful situations. When someone follows you into a dark alley, those anxious feelings of a racing heartbeat and sweaty palms succumbs to heightened senses and a rush of adrenalin that can save your life. This is the fight or flight syndrome.

In the case of regular anxiety, the fearful feelings are dread of a specific situation and not the situation itself. Getting caught in traffic can cause an anxiety attack over what may occur when you get to work late. Beginning a new job may bring on anxiety attacks for some people. You don’t know anyone and fear of that unknown can send you into a panic.

Everybody experiences panic or anxiety in small ways. Like the fight or flight example, it can save your life. In new situations, we get panicky but when the outcome we fear fails to materialize, the anxiety stops. For someone with severe anxiety, this is not the case.

Each situation that brings anxiety is not life-threatening. Commonly it is an exceedingly demanding situation that has brought on the anxiety as a way of dealing with it. Unchecked anxiety of this type can result in depression.

If you suffer from anxiety attacks on occasion or a more frequent anxiety disorder, there are steps you can take to keep your anxiety under control.

1. See a professional. This is typically a good initial step. Self-diagnosis of any type of physical or mental condition is ill-advised and can be dangerous. A professional psychologist can help you understand your anxiety and prescribe medication or other effective strategies.

2. Get a good night’s sleep. During the sleep cycle, your body repairs itself. You feel more rested after a few hours of restorative sleep, reaching the REM stage. The majority of people require eight hours a night which changes within an hour or two either way.

3. Exercise on a regular basis. Exercise helps you to use oxygen more effectively. It helps to get more oxygen to the brain. It also increases focus which may help you see answers to problems instead of simply worrying about them.

4. Meditate. Meditation is more than chanting mantras. Yoga is an exercise that involves quieting the mind and controlling your breathing. Simple meditation such as taking 5 minutes to clear your mind everyday can work wonders in the fight against anxiety.

5. Manage the worry. When you feel your pulse start to speed up, count backwards from ten. As you count, focus on the situation. What has actually happened? Withstand the urge to read anything more into the situation.

6. Don’t use alcohol. You might think that the glass of wine is relaxing your tension but alcohol is a depressant. In anxious situations you could rely too heavily on it and gain another complication in the process.

7. Find some relaxing activities. Stress can rob you of your energy. On a regular basis, do something you like such as gardening, painting, reading or listening to music.

Anxiety can come into your life at any time. It’s normal. When the anxiety becomes constant you could be at risk for more serious conditions. If you feel your anxiety is starting to take over your life or increasingly causing you problems, seek qualified professional help immediately. These are some effective steps for managing anxiety. No one should have to endure this dreadful situation in silence.


Challenge Your Mindset

June 19th, 2014

One of the crucial factors most successful individuals attribute to their success is their mindset. Our fears, limiting beliefs, negative thoughts, and lack of confidence can all prevent or impede us from achieving our greatest dreams. However, challenging your mindset may be the greatest achievement of your life. Here are some reasons why you want to challenge your mindset and some food for thought.

Are you afraid of change?

Many of us live and die by a job list, a schedule, goals and a strategy. When things occur that aren’t arranged or prepared it tosses us for a loop. Sound familiar? Modification can in fact be, and most often is, a great opportunity. It may be an opportunity for wealth, for development or it might merely be a chance to acquire information– when you take advantage of change you press your boundaries, you open a whole new world of possibilities and you make room for something larger in your life. Consider whether you dread change and what you can do to embrace it instead.

Do you permit yourself to think outside the box?

Development stems from believing beyond the box and if you stop to take a look around you, development is incredibly lucrative. The most dramatic example might be the aircraft. Prior to the Wright bros thinking of exactly what was possible, individuals assumed air travel wasn’t. What about landing on the moon? Talking on the phone with somebody halfway around the globe or talking with them on your computer system?

Now these are all technology-based developments, but there are a million services and products just waiting to be considered and used. Be sure to give yourself “what if” time. Ponder the possibilities without any restrictions. Don’t think of what you have to make something possible, not initially; just think about exactly what is possible– dream about what is possible.

Explore your restricting beliefs

Have you ever had those “I can’t” thoughts? Obviously you have, all of us have. That’s the easiest kind of restricting belief to acknowledge and remove. Now, whenever you think, state or feel that you can not, stop yourself and think, feel and say “I can.” Other limiting beliefs are harder to recognize. We’re talking about those beliefs you’ve grown up with that permeate your life, though they might not be true.

For instance, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer is a familiar saying amongst some families, however is it really true? Is it true for you? Naturally if you’re rich, you’re most likely believing, “I hope so!” The point is to recognize the beliefs you have and to examine them to see if they’re real and if they’re limiting you from being and accomplishing all that you can. If they are, discover how you can alter that belief into an empowering one that supports you and your objectives. They say that you can alter your reality and it starts with your ideas and beliefs.

Understand that your thoughts are 100 % under your control

There’s an amazing sense of empowerment when you recognize that you can manage your ideas. It can suggest the end of adverse self-talk, closed mindset, and self-doubt. Naturally, it takes time to recognize all of the limiting thoughts and discover how to change your mindset, but it is an effort that is well worth the time and energy. You can control how you perceive events, how you react to challenges, and how you associate with others. When you’re able to change your mindset and regulate your thoughts, a universe of favorable circumstances will open up for you.

Mindset is an effective thing. It can lead us astray, drive us from our strongest hopes and desires or help us fulfill our greatest dreams. Taking time to cultivate a favorable mindset can alter your life. Starting today, challenge your mindset.


How To Feel Good In Your Own Skin

May 30th, 2014


It isn’t unusual for lots of people to feel down about themselves or that they aren’t as important as others. The fact is that no individual is ideal and there’s no reason you can not feel good about yourself. Use some of the following easy methods to feel wonderful in your own skin and see the distinction it can make.

You don’t have to be perfect or compare yourself with others to feel good about yourself. You can learn to see your very own beauty by concentrating on the good and playing down the negative. Before you can do that you’ll want to take a serious, unbiased look at yourself. Think about the things you do well, the friends you have and actual features you’re happy. If there are things that you’re comfortable with, you have a beginning point.

* Accept that you’re never going to be perfect. Even women who spend thousands of dollars trying to have the perfect body or perfect nose are certainly never fulfilled. You can save yourself a fair bit of money by accentuating the positive. Suppose you have beautiful, eloquent eyes. Why not learn a new way to use make-up to draw attention to your eyes? You can also use make-up to make a too large nose look smaller or an uneven smile appear straight.

* There is more to beauty and feeling good in your own skin than merely looking good. You might be surprised that beauty originates between the ears. If you have a great attitude and believe you are the best you that you can be, you’ll begin feeling better about yourself – perhaps even better than if you’d just come back from a week at a spa.

* Be extravagant and get a flattering new hairstyle. Ask friends what type of hairstyle they think you’d look good in and then go to a salon to get a new look. Don’t forget to get advice from the beautician. They’re trained to know what type of style is appropriate for each face shape.

* Spend some time taking care of yourself. Go on a walk with a friend or a loved one. Not only will the exercise help you physically, it will help you mentally and spiritually also. There’s nothing quite like being out in nature breathing in clean air and being active. Make exercise a vital part of your life and you will begin to feel better about yourself.

* Make a decision to change your eating habits. Choose fresh fruits and vegetables as well as reducing simple carbohydrates and sweets. Cut down on the amount of food you eat and, if you feel the need for dessert, do it in moderation. When you start making better food choices, you’ll find it can change the way you feel dramatically.

* Try not to compare yourself with others. Sure, there may be someone at work who appears to have it all– looks, brains, ability or money. However, if you really knew this person, you’d probably find they have their own doubts about themselves and their life isn’t as perfect as you think it is.

If you’re not completely comfortable about the way you look you may be struggling to like yourself. Using some of these easy ways to feel good in your own skin, you can begin to make small adjustments which will greatly improve your life. All it requires is a little will and determination to get you started toward feeling good in your own skin and enjoying your life.


How Self Improvement Relates To Success

May 1st, 2014


How do you determine if an individual wants to attain self improvement? This may be a question without any certain answer. It will all rely on the person.

Many people have goals, dreams or ambitions however many aren’t sure how to go about attaining them. They may have thought of what would create self improvement and their perfect life, however have no concept of the best ways to even begin to make the plans and take the necessary actions needed to make them a reality.

Some people have a vague concept on ways to go about self improvement. These are the ones that think that if only they had a much better caree, or had actually been given better opportunities, or fulfilled the love of their life, or whatever else, everything would be fine and they would be happy.

They feel that their happiness or absence of happiness is decided by external aspects and their ideas and actions are of little effect.

Some believe that if only they had even more cash they can have whatever they want and be well on their way to self improvement.

They may have invested little time considering what they actually want from life, and do not really think there is anything they can do to produce their fuzzy variation of utopia anyway, apart from buying more lottery tickets.

Other individuals do not even know what they actually want from their lives and could even have little idea what would really make them elated . They seem to just drift from day to day, week to week, month to month, and year to year, and do little more than nearly get by.

They might have seemingly protected jobs and be earning enough to live fairly comfortable lives. They seem to be happy and have no great ambition to accomplish anything more from their lives than they currently have.

Is self improvement essential?

The truth is that throughout our lives we are all constantly growing and developing. Situations make us grow and develop, even if we do not make the conscious decision to do so.

Up to a specific age, we learn through formal education and we continue to learn through our experiences for the rest of our lives. We need to find out and grow to handle everything that life tosses at us. All of us need to go through self improvement.

Modern life moves at a drastically much faster speed than at anytime in history. For anybody living in modern-day society there are more opportunities to do anything that you wish to do with your life than ever before.

However there is also even more competition than before, and ever altering technology indicates that there really are a small amount of, if any ‘jobs for life’ anymore. It is now pretty normal not just to change jobs quite often throughout our working lives, but even to totally change careers and industries.

Due to the fact that today’s workplace is so competitive, individuals who are ambitious and hungry for success know they have to learn new skills and knowledge to keep ahead of the pack. To obtain this, self improvement is needed.

These are the people that will most likely keep their jobs, or be promoted within their chosen field, or that will be readily employable in different organizations or markets.

A commitment to self improvement and individual development could well be the deciding determinant how anyone’s future will end up.


Real-Time Commentary About A Real Time Problem

April 16th, 2014

Everybody talks about how, despite the recent economic issues we have been dealing with and the growing political uncertainties in the Middle East and with Russia and the Ukraine, we are living in one of the greatest eras of humanity, thanks to the advances that social media offers us. This is certainly true for many reasons, but the fact is that not everything that it offers us is advantageous. Thanks to the anonymity that the internet offers us, there have numerous occasions cited where interactive discussions and real-time commentary have turned ugly. Bullying has gone from the oversized kid pushing you down in the playground and stealing your money to voices chiming in from around the world commenting on how fat you look in a picture you just posted on your social media app. It is this very judgmental nature that puts pressure on girls and young women to mistreat their bodies in an effort to attain an unrealistic physicality. By focusing so much on their appearance, they diminish their own self-esteem, they devalue other aspects of their personality and they ultimately drive themselves into depression.

Thankfully many women are taking back the streets, as it were, by creating online discussions where women discuss Barbie doll body image in a safe environment. These open forums serve as a place where they can talk openly about why they feel the need to look a certain way and get the support to help them feel better about who they are as a person. Just as importantly, it helps to open up the discussion as to why so many women feel this way in the first place. Is this something that is created very early on in life by playing with an idealized doll that has unrealistic proportions and told that is what it means to be beautiful? Or does it come as girls get older and are introduced to fashion magazines that promote stick thin models, advertisements that focus on beauty product after beauty product, and movies and television shows where the beautiful girl gets the good looking guy and her less attractive best friend supposedly is happy for them? The truth is probably somewhere in the middle, but it will be discovered sooner rather than later, now that social media and interactive discussions are finally around to help foster the conversation.

Now the girl that feels like an outcast doesn’t have to feel like she is alone, because now she can be connected with a million girls around the world who feel just like she does. She can learn to recognize she is beautiful not because of how she looks but because of who she is, and in turn she can go to open forums and be the voice that someone else was to her. She can use social media to mentor another girl who feels lost in the world, and slowly we can truly make this the greatest era of humanity.


Barbie-Girl Body Image

April 14th, 2014

Barbie and body dysmorphia is a hot topic of debate, especially in social media. Women’s rights activists and psychologists alike are concerned with how the unrealistic physical proportions promoted by the popular Barbie doll are negatively affecting young girls. The question up for social discussion is what the fundamental problem really is: young girls’ internalizing the image or society fixating on a toy?

The argument is whether Barbie is just a toy, or more than just a symbol of consumerism. Has she psychologically influenced young girls’ impression of what they should look like and achieve when they grow into adult women? One claim is that the effect is absolutely negative. Aside from a predetermined visage of “beauty”, the doll makes young girls self-conscious about their bodies as compared to the unrealistic “ideal” of Barbie’s proportions. A study in Psychology found that low self-esteem and desire for a particularly thin body shape was more prevalent for girls ages 5-8 who were exposed to images of Barbie, as opposed to those who were not, or who were exposed to images of Emme dolls (US size 16). The fear here is the early exposure will lead to eventual propensity for eating disorders or weight cycling associated with Barbie-girl ideals.

The psychological condition itself is called “body dysmorphic disorder.” Sounds serious, if you ask me. It is serious … especially if this condition leads some women to physically change their body shape and features via surgical alterations. It is not just Barbie to blame, however. The images of the “ideal woman” saturate today’s marketing and are prevalent in female celebrities and models that these young girls admire. Barbie is just one of them.

This topic of the psychological effect of Barbie-like images on young women and healthy body image is being actively discussed in open forums on the internet. Fortunately, today’s online discussion format gives everyone involved in the debate sites or outlets to investigate this issue. The interactive discussions enable people to join in, ranging from doll designers amd manufacturers to activists to young women. These types of discussions are a necessary step if we want to answer questions like: who is responsible for promoting healthy body image? Or how can we fix the body image issue?

Some claim that Barbie was never meant to have real proportions. That is all well and good, except for Barbie is marketed as the ideal for what is considered beautiful for a woman. Young girls do not understand that this “ideal” may be unobtainable without surgical alteration. What about teaching an appreciation of natural beauty? Some brands are more recently attempting to portray real women in their media for just this reason. They should be commended. What about the “real proportions” Barbie? Changing such an icon is a challenging notion, though it may be simple in practice. As someone who grew up with Barbie in my toy chest, I think the new image is ironically something that will take some getting used to for all of us, but it is a step in the right direction to empower young and impressionable minds.